Tuesday, October 20, 2009

How to Increase Your Success With Online Dating

For many men, Online Dating is a dirty word. It elicits visions of out of shape users or social rejects who have looked to the web as their last saving grace. For some reason, over time we've come to accept this lie as truth and it has pushed many of us away from expanding our dating horizons.

Before I go any further, I want you to take part in a simple exercise with me. Search Google for a free dating site. On that dating site I want you to do a city search for women nearby you. You'll be surprised by the amount of beautiful women there are Online actively seeking out a dating partner.

You might be asking yourself, "why are all these hot girls online looking for guys, shouldn't they be able to have any man they want?" Women face a number of the same challenges men do when it comes to dating, especially in our increasingly fast paced society.

With the increased amount of women taking up careers and postponing marriage and family life, many find themselves devoted to their career, which doesn't leave much time for dating and a social life. As a result, they've turned to Online Dating as a way to meet new people with the little time that they have available.

A lot of these women you'll never meet in a bar or club so Online Dating truly expose's you to a whole group of new women you wouldn't ordinarily have access to.

One of the biggest mistakes that men make is getting sucked completely into the world of Online Dating. By no means should dating sites account for your entire dating portfolio. Online Dating is a great way to practice meeting and interacting with women but should never replace physical interactions.

Chatting with a girl online can easily turn into an online relationship, but chances are the person you meet online and the person you meet in real life are two different people. Don't spend countless hours chatting back and forth via email or instant messenger, instead at the first available moment move your relationship offline.

If you've created a solid relationship with her you'll find that she's more than willing to exchange phone numbers with you.

Making the transition from the online world to the physical world is not without it's bumps and difficulties. You may find that the girl who interested you online no longer interests you offline. You may also find that she doesn't look like her profile pictures. When dating online, it's important to keep these things in mind, don't become over enthusiastic with the relationship right off the bat and don't put all of your eggs in one basket. Be sure that you approach and chat with numerous girls online, that way if one of the girls flake on you or doesn't live up to your expectations you have a number of other potential dating opportunities on the go.

Likewise, it's important that throughout your interactions online you remain truthful so that when the time for a physical meeting occurs between the two of you she is not disappointed because you don't live up to your false claims.

When putting together your online profile, it's important to distinguish yourself from all of the other guys online. You can do this by including the following in your profile.

1. Display that you are humorous and don't take Online Dating too seriously. You can do this by creating a witty headline or using funny or silly photos of you and your friends. It's also good to include a short paragraph stating that you aren't online to meet your soul mate you're just having fun.

2. Give a valid reason for why you're using Online Dating. You want to display that you're not forced to use Online Dating because you're a recluse or a social outcast. This could be because your career takes up the majority of your time, you dislike bars and clubs or you just want to meet new people.

3. Show that you're comfortable around beautiful women. Include a photo of you with a good looking friend or relative, this will give off the impression to girls on the site that you meet and hang out with women on a regular basis.

4. Beauty is common, you're looking for more than just looks. There are tons of good looking women online, show that looks mean little to you, they have to impress you in ways other than physical attributes. This will help women qualify themselves to you.

5. Highlight some interests that you have in a clear and concise manner. This can be done through bullet points or by using quotes that relate to your life. Include things such as art, history, music, politics, sports etc.

If you communicate the above in your profile you'll notice an almost immediate increase in the messages that you receive. Women will be fascinated by your profile and will be intrigued enough to communicate with you.

Lastly, keep you profile fresh and up to date. Some dating sites rank profiles based on when they were last updated, so it's important to always be adding new content and photos.

Online Dating doesn't have to be a dirty word, it can increase your confidence and interaction with women and it'll make you a better person because of it.

Ramses is a certified dating instructor at http://www.skillsofthegame.com He has provided thousands of men with practical advice for improving their success with women.


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